Day Three

I didn't post yesterday because "Life" got in the way. I did ask friends and family what I should change about myself and I got absolutely no direct response. I have decided that I am going to be a leader.  I came across this today that pointed me in that direction.

People who lord it over others are control freaks. They are insecure people who only feel secure when they are controlling others—or think they are. And whether they are seeking to lead a church, a class, a team, their family, or just one other person—or as a politician—they are not being effective leaders but pushers. Secure people will want to avoid this type of person. The only way to be an effective leader is to be a "puller." That is, to lead by example.

I know I have the skills within me to be a leader. I just choose to follow as I find it easier than dealing with stupidity. I ask others for approval and don't feel it necessary to take the responsibilities of the higher management. Why do I do this? That is a good question, with probably two answers. First, I don't get paid what management gets paid. I am far below management scale pay and second because I have a life outside of work. 

I am the leader in my house, with my children, finances, family and friends. I do what I am supposed to and do it to the best of my abilities. I have learned the hard way and repeatedly that you are replaceable at a job. Granted, it may take up to five people to do what I do in a position but all the same I am replaceable. 

When it comes to family and friends, I am not replaceable. That is the entire purpose of relationships. You build relationships and maintain them through out your live and when you loose one you morn it. I lost my brother when he was 25, a relationship that is irreplaceable. Life is two short to waste on chasing money. I want to provide well for my family but if I am not there then what good is that money? It isn't going to make them happy when they are lonely or want a kiss goodnight or a phone call to let me know they are alright. 

And on that note... I bid you good night. My family is in bed, books read, bottle made, kisses given. It has been a beautiful day!