Day 6

I am only able to post every other day apparently. This will change. There is a book out there called The Secret and someone suggested that I read it. It is under self help and the reason they suggested I read it is because I have been posting on my Facebook about debt. I am in debt and like most have a job and go to said job for the earnings. In this book (that I Google-d because I have never heard of it) I found that it is the secret of thinking and living positively to create positive results. I know this, I work at doing this but I am not sure I come off as positive in my comments as they are in my head. I did read an interesting idea from people who have read the entire book and it rang true with me because of other books I have read over the years. These books include everything from self help to religious to spiritual and physic books. The theory is simple, you believe, think and breathe something is going to happen and it manifests or creates itself as a truth in your life.
This person wanted a baby and wasn't conceiving over a couple of years, so after reading this book created a scrapbook for her desire to become pregnant and a few months or a year later she was pregnant. Great for her, I don't think I want any more children at this time. However, the concept is a valid one. So today I have decided to create a scrapbook and the first thing I put in it is a Honda Pilot. I have accomplished a bit with positive thinking. Now I think it is time to think bigger!
Ask me why a Honda Pilot... It seats 9 adults, American Adults, not Chinese adults. We all know Americans are super-sized people. I want something useful for the size of my family. Which is what I was going to blog about today and for some reason was drawn to the positive thinking topic instead. Try it, create a scrapbook and let me know what your results are. I will let you know what mine are.... The pilot is the first step.. I will be finding a picture of money and posting it on several pages in my scrap book to make it multiply and get myself and family out of debt in the next year.

How much debt are you in... well let me tell you.. not nearly as much as when I met my husband. I was approximately $50,000 in debt, he was - well a whole other story. He came to me with three step children and his own son and $113,000. You could only imagine, and he had no idea.. We currently are in dept approximately $30,000 not including the house payments. We worked hard and took every deal we could find to get out of the hole we were in. Thinking positively, making sacrifices as needed, re-evaluating our priorities. We have come a long way. Now it is time to manifest all of our debt away and purchase with cash the Honda Pilot I want. Scrapbook here I come...

Day Three

I didn't post yesterday because "Life" got in the way. I did ask friends and family what I should change about myself and I got absolutely no direct response. I have decided that I am going to be a leader.  I came across this today that pointed me in that direction.

People who lord it over others are control freaks. They are insecure people who only feel secure when they are controlling others—or think they are. And whether they are seeking to lead a church, a class, a team, their family, or just one other person—or as a politician—they are not being effective leaders but pushers. Secure people will want to avoid this type of person. The only way to be an effective leader is to be a "puller." That is, to lead by example.

I know I have the skills within me to be a leader. I just choose to follow as I find it easier than dealing with stupidity. I ask others for approval and don't feel it necessary to take the responsibilities of the higher management. Why do I do this? That is a good question, with probably two answers. First, I don't get paid what management gets paid. I am far below management scale pay and second because I have a life outside of work. 

I am the leader in my house, with my children, finances, family and friends. I do what I am supposed to and do it to the best of my abilities. I have learned the hard way and repeatedly that you are replaceable at a job. Granted, it may take up to five people to do what I do in a position but all the same I am replaceable. 

When it comes to family and friends, I am not replaceable. That is the entire purpose of relationships. You build relationships and maintain them through out your live and when you loose one you morn it. I lost my brother when he was 25, a relationship that is irreplaceable. Life is two short to waste on chasing money. I want to provide well for my family but if I am not there then what good is that money? It isn't going to make them happy when they are lonely or want a kiss goodnight or a phone call to let me know they are alright. 

And on that note... I bid you good night. My family is in bed, books read, bottle made, kisses given. It has been a beautiful day! 

Life- the social experiment.

I have decided to start a blog about Life- the social experiment. There are so many aspects to life that one must cover on a daily basis, from waking up and creating a beauty regiment, to work, to family, friends and significant others. I will be the social experiment.  Right now there are several things about me that make me average. I am 38, have two kids, a husband, and two dogs. I am over weight, and I don't do anything but work, take care of the family and spend time on the computer. I am going to start with myself and change one thing at a time.. It takes 20 days to change a habit.  Now to figure out what I should change.