Over the last couple of days I have heard a lot of "problems with the spouse" issues. I don't have a perfect marriage, but I do have a perfect for me marriage. There are a couple of things I did and still do to make my marriage work. I wanted to share them. 1. there are 100 questions to ask before you get married. (yes,your married now and you should have probably asked these questions before but if you are not in agreement now then you should probably be asking them to each other.) Make sure you answer them separately and then share your answers together. http://onlyartblog.wordpress.com/2012/12/05/100-questions-couple-should-ask-before-getting-married/
2. I saw this show on TLC on how to save your marriage, 7 days of sex (hey it never hurts) - agree with your spouse to have 7 days of sex, even if you are mad at each other you have to stick to 7 days in a row. If it doesn't help your marriage is probably done. (My opinion)
3. Put your higher power over yourself, your spouse and your family. I believe in God. He is over all of us.
4. A marriage is a team - when discussing life, decisions, attitudes, kids use the word WE (we are a team and there is no I in team, if we are using the word me to make decisions, we aren't doing what is best for the team.) and there are no such thing as step kids.. they are ours because we are a team.
5. Do things together- life gets in the way... make time for each other.
